Dear Granddaddy, my 14-year old daughter told me she is 3 months pregnant. What should I do? Caitlin- A worried mom.
Well, Caitlin, I understand that you’re worried about your daughter. I also understand that you are wrestling with a huge decision right now that you weren’t expecting to have to make at this point in your life. However, I also know that rarely do our lives end up looking like we pictured.
A wise man once told me this many years ago when I was complaining that my life wasn’t turning out the way I envisioned, “Who are you to say how it should look? Are you the Almighty Creator? It’s your job to do the best you can with what you’ve been given. That’s it!”
In regards to the best, it’s certainly for the best that your daughter had the courage and she believed in her relationship with you enough to tell you. She certainly could have taken another route, and yet she didn’t. So, mom, you must be doing something right.
Now, I can’t tell you exactly what to do, Caitlin, because that decision is going to be up to you and your daughter. However, I know what I would do if my daughter came to me with the same issue.
I’d love her and remember that it takes a village to raise a child. I’d make sure that she and her baby always knew they were loved and accepted, no matter what. I’d make sure that life went on for all of us, no matter what. With some creative scheduling life does go on, and it can go on in a pretty good way, too, for all involved.
Yes. There is going to be some increased responsibilities for all parties involved. But responsibility doesn’t have to be a four letter word. Turned around, it’s just the ability to be responsible. And we all want that superpower, don’t we? Of course, we do. So put on your supermom cape, Caitlin.
Hang in there, Caitlin. Time has a way of making things better. It will all work out. Trust me. You’ll see…
Dan Blanchard is a bestselling and an award-winning author, speaker, and educator.