By ALICIA WATKINS
Special to The Herald

I spent four years after college teaching English — first to students in China, then to GED students in Washington, D.C.

I did not have the certification that would have allowed me to teach in an American public school. It may have been this fact that caused friends and relatives to ask me, on my visits to family in Connecticut, when I would be getting “a real job.”

It was more likely the fact that I was a volunteer those four years, supported in China by sponsorship from those friends and relatives and in D.C. by a voluntary service and Americorps, that prompted questions of when I would settle down.

Settling down means, in part, making money. It also means sticking to one place and buckling down when “the going gets rough.” Settling down means choosing one course of action — or inaction — and committing to it. Settling down is practical.

But nothing is more practical than doing what you really, really want to do. And settling down too often becomes settling.

Settling for less than what you know you’re capable of leads to misery.

Misery is not practical — it’s stupid. It’s a waste of time and effort to work at something that makes you money but makes you miserable. It’s always been a waste, but is even more of one now, when building a career means cultivating skills and abilities that can be taken with you when you change jobs.

And you will change jobs. It’s no longer a question of whether you will ever again need an updated resume, but how often you’ll need it: every year? Every six months? Some people make careers of working for temp agencies. The old paradigm of the industrial corporation earning worker loyalty by offering security is obsolete. Gone with it are the assumed advantages of “settling down.”

This isn’t necessarily bad. There were advantages to a workplace that offered job security, but there are at least as many advantages to the emerging market for creative and flexible individuals — those who can multitask, who are willing to learn and can apply a variety of past experiences to a new challenge.

There are comparatively fewer advantages in the new marketplace, of course, for those still interested primarily in settling down.

We need to change our paradigms to accommodate this change. In his book “Work: Making a Living and Making a Life,” Joshua Halberstam points out that “in our economy, jobs are activities, not positions; only the temporary contract is permanent.” The “temporary contract” offers payment for services rendered, encourages project-driven work rather than stable position-related functions and essentially eliminates the division between “management” and “employee.” In this environment, your loyalty is to yourself and developing your potential.

There’s no reason to “put in time” in the proverbial mailroom, hoping to be promoted on the basis of your long service. Recent graduates or workers dissatisfied with their job’s responsibilities or position need to become entrepreneurs, seeking out a need for skills they have or would like to develop — especially for work in a field they would enjoy.

While many fields are increasingly specialized, there’s no reason to stick to one career path, either. Most skills are transferable. Even hobbies can become careers.

I waited, as my years in China passed, and then as my time in D.C. went by, to feel ready to “settle down.” I expected the desire to commit to one place or vocation to magically descend on me.

So far, it hasn’t — but considering the range of fascinating opportunities out there, I’m glad.

Alicia Watkins, a former resident of China and Washington, D.C., now lives in Plainville. Her column runs Fridays. Comment on her columns at aliciawatkins.blogspot.com.